Wednesday, October 8, 2008

You Don't Need A Man

by Donna L. Watkins

Many times the self-worth of a female is tied up in whether she's got a man. The Bible tells the story of Jesus meeting a woman at a well that had five husbands and was now living with another man. Jesus saw her wounds. Wounds that drove her to believe that a relationship with a man would make life good ... if she could only find the right man.

© 2008 Donna L. Watkins - Female Red-bellied Woodpecker
When we are wounded we attract wounded relationships and as we know, wounded people can't help much in healing the wounds of others since they're so focused on their own. So, people go from one relationship to another looking for love in all the wrong places.

There is a man that will heal all those wounds, but it's not a man, it's The Man, Jesus. He told this Samaritan women, "whoever drinks the water I give will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give will become a spring of water welling up to eternal life."

Living water! Never thirsty for something that "a man" cannot provide. It's being renewed to walk in newness of life, according to the image of Christ's example. If you're sick of the way your life is going, change it. First you need The Man who died for you that you might have power to walk in this renewed life. You will put off the "old man" and put on the new. One that is not attached to relationships for acceptance and self-worth. One who is created in the image of God, uniquely designed for a passion and purpose.

Then when your mind is healthier and when God chooses, you'll get a man that will also be emotionally healthy and together you can serve God as each of you is called to glorify God with your own skills, talents and abilities that lead you to your destinies.

First fill your cup with Christ. Soak up His love until it's overflowing into other lives and you won't need "a man" to make life worth living.

"A woman's heart should be so hidden in Christ, that a man should have to seek Christ first to find her." Unknown

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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Thank you for this one especially!

Well, Donna, this is exactly what God has been showing me in recent months about myself - needing to have a man in my life in order to even have self-worth since my 'less mature years'. Alas, it all turned out to be a disaster and a broken/just-about-hanging-on kind of marriage.

And, yes, we are two people from very dysfunctional pasts who brought so much baggage into our relationship that 33 years later, it's still not yet sorted, in spite of counselling!!

Having gotten together long before I gave my heart to Jesus and not sought wise counsel or heeded God's many warnings to think again, we have both reaped a bitter harvest, and I have paid very dearly with my health.

It has been a tough lesson to learn and I so wish that I'd learnt it earlier on in life. Still yet, God has lavished His grace and love upon us, even if our marriage is nowhere near healed.

Thank you once again, I do so appreciate your writings. Keep it up for the Kingdom!

God bless you.


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